dealing with grief

what can i say ?? i am so disappointed.
i knew the Boys had a huge task today.
all the injuries, suspensions, and general unease about the
desire and motivation of our team made todays game very lose-able.
i can deal with losing.
i cant deal with losing all the ways we lost today.
losing games is one thing but losing hope of being a good team hurts too much.
so i will continue to believe that the Boys can be good.
i will continue to believe that the offense will remember how to block, throw, catch
and score points.
i will continue to believe that the defense will figure out how to stop the run,
get some pressure and defend long passes.
i will continue to believe that the special teams can be special in a positive sense
because we have seen they can be special in a negative one.
i will continue to believe that our coaches will learn how to motivate and teach these guys how to play the game with desire and discipline.
we are only 7 games into a 16 game season, still time to get it right.
i am way beyond the throwing things stage of fanhood i have inhabited.
some of you may not be so i offer some wise advice on my way outta here.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. All your feelings are normal. It is helpful, however, to know that human grief is a process that often follows a healing pattern.

Shock is the first stage. It is accompanied by disbelief and numbness and a mistaken thought that the Boys were better than they really are.

Denial follows quickly, crying "I don't believe it," or "It can't be."

Bargaining is your promise that "I'll be so very good that maybe I can wake up and find that it isn't so. I'll do all the right things if only....", wearing your jersey every day of the week isnt gonna make the team win these kind of games...i have proven that to myself.

Guilt is painful and hard to deal with. This is when one says over and over, "If only I had..." or "If only I had not..." This is a normal feeling and ultimately it may be solved by stating, "I'm a human being and I gave the best and worst of me to the Cowboys and what they do with that is their responsibility.

Anger is another big factor which seems to be necessary in order to face the reality of life and then to get beyond it. We must all heal in our own ways. Anger is a natural stage through which we must pass. I will
add that throwing things or kicking them doesnt really help in the long run.

Depression is a stage of grief that comes and goes. Knowing this, be prepared to give yourself time to heal. Resignation is a late stage. It comes when finally you accept the truth.

Acceptance and hope! Understand that the Good Guys wont be 16-0 but your life can go on to find meaning and purpose.

i do want to say that i got this info from dealing with much more serious matters than a football game and i dont want anyone to think i am making fun of those matters. i am however making fun a little of how serious we take our football, but just a little cuz i really am disappointed and madder than i should be.

later Poke